Couples can try to convince themselves that it is a simple matter and that everything will end peacefully and amicably. Unspoken and undefined, but clearly obvious, are the layers of pain and pain beneath this falsely “calm” façade of most divorce applicants. You can`t just entrust your life to one person and then let them go. Divorce causes trauma to the abandoned spouse and unspoken pain to the departing spouse, no matter how indifferent. Almost every country in the world has laws governing how to end a marriage. Many countries have made changes to their divorce laws in recent decades, usually with the aim of facilitating the dissolution of marriages. Some countries have only recently legalised divorce (e.g. Malta 2011, Chile 2004, Ireland 1996 and Spain 1981). In the 1960s and 1970s, it was common for national law to allow divorce only in very limited cases and generally required one spouse to prove that the other had committed a serious marital error, such as adultery, domestic violence or abandonment. Over time, more and more countries have allowed no-fault divorce on their part, often requiring only the claim of “irretrievable failure” of the marital relationship (or “irreconcilable differences”) or even only the consent of both spouses as the reason. Finally, many countries have introduced unilateral divorce in recent years, so that divorce is granted even without the consent of the other spouse. Even though the initial shock of divorce can hurt your kids right away, they may see it as a breath of fresh air — especially if you and your ex are constantly arguing and the kids have always landed in the middle.
Once the separation is official, children can breathe a sigh of relief that they finally have two happy parents. “Children are extremely resilient and adapt to most situations,” says Hoertz. “If the couple can find a way to co-parent and communicate effectively, they are teaching their children a lot more than they could in an unhealthy marriage,” she continues. “Often, children from divorced families are likely to have more empathy for others.” Divorce is not the killer of happy marriages. It is simply a life raft for people who are drowning in a marriage that is already long dead. If you want to ensure a successful marriage, we should provide couples with resources and support to help them adapt better, not just tell them to stay together. When you love someone, you don`t chain them to you; Her decision to stay is a greater sense of emotional security than locking her into a divorce free marriage. Sometimes these unhealthy relationships are realized only after a marital commitment, which shows the necessity of divorce. These unhealthy relationships can affect everyone in the household, including all children caught in the crossfire of a toxic marriage. The first question regarding the social impact of divorce law seems to be whether the recent liberalisation of the grounds for divorce has had an impact on divorce rates. In the 1960s and 1970s, divorce rates increased in the United States, the United Kingdom, Germany and France (Figure 2). The trend reversed in the United States after 1980 and in the United Kingdom after 1995, while the increase continued in France, Germany and especially Italy until the mid-2000s.
The U.S. had the highest divorce rates of the six countries throughout the 1960-2019 period, rising from about two divorces per 1,000 people per year in 1960 to more than five in 1980 and then about three in 2017. Italy had the lowest divorce rate throughout the 1970-2019 period, with less than one divorce per 1,000 people until 2014, then rising to around 1.5. Similarly, Spain had slightly higher divorce rates than Italy, but after the 2005 reform, the level rose steadily to almost three divorces per 1,000 inhabitants per year. The France, Germany, Spain and the United Kingdom show similar levels and trends, with a divorce rate of about two per 1,000 people per year in the late 2010s. Some studies have examined the effects of divorce law on other economic decisions in households headed by a married couple, such as wealth accumulation (savings). One study uses data from Ireland and finds that a “side effect” of legalizing divorce in 1996 was an increase in household savings among married couples (including those who did not divorce) . A priori, an increased risk of divorce can encourage both more savings (in anticipation of higher future expenses) and less savings (to avoid having to share property in the event of separation). The results suggest that the mild effect dominates.
A recent study also suggests that the introduction of unilateral divorce in US states has led to an increase in household savings . While the pros and cons of divorce are all relevant, it is important not to avoid a necessary divorce due to the drawbacks and vice versa. There is no perfect marriage, just as there is no perfect love in this world. Marriage and love must be dealt with and developed in a timely manner, taking advantage of all the problems and difficulties of the couple to learn the virtues and thus strengthen their love and life together. Young love should develop into lasting love and, in old age, devotion. Moreover, unlike the Philippines, divorce is already legal in Latin American countries, where Roman Catholicism also has a great influence. While parental rights, social redistribution, and LGBTQ2+ rights have been factors in legalizing divorce in these countries, it is banned in the Philippines because the government wants to preserve marriage as a strong family foundation and social institution. The Catholic Church cannot adapt its teachings to the preferences suggested by surveys, most of which are emotionally motivated and difficult to translate into relevant actions. The sanctity of marriage is embodied in the moral code, which is eternal and immutable.
The Church, which opposes the legalization of divorce, repeats a position it has taken since the time of Christ. The Church`s teaching on divorce is immutable because it is a divine law. Those who advocate divorce and remarriage actually claim that human laws are superior to God`s laws.